WE ARE NOT PERFECT, BUT WE CAN GET BETTER AND WE CAN FORGIVE ourselves and others. You ever have a conversion with a friend or family member that slowly turns heated? And you stand on your position and they stand on theirs because you both ‘know’ that you are absolutely right and the other is wrong? You ever step away and realize later that they were right and you were wrong? What do you do then? What should you do then? Please let me know your thoughts.
Here are mine: Full Life Balance (FLB) states that you should seek that person out and apologize. Be specific and honest. Here’s an example: “You know yesterday when we were talking about XXX and I said… and you said…? Well I thought about and I was wrong. I now see what you were saying.” It could as simple as that. However, if it really got heated then you may want to add, “I’m sorry. Forgive me? Are we ok?” or something like that. Use your own words—but you get the point. You and I and everyone are wrong occasionally (and most times, it not critically important to be absolutely correct, but more on that next time) —realize it, accept it, sincerely apologize and move on. Also, accept the other person’s apology when their turn comes and it will if you help to establish the pattern of forgiveness in the relationship.
We must assess, cleanse, model and monitor our actions and the actions of others to improve our emotional self. We must also understand ups and downs and changes are guaranteed in life—how we handle these events demonstrates our level of balance. We must listen, ask, speak, forgive and apologize to ensure we diminish the long term effects of human frailty in ourselves and others.
TIP: 5 MINUTES OF REFLECTION at the end of every day take 5 minutes to think about what you did well in personal interactions that day, and then think about what you could have done better, and commit to be better tomorrow.
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